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Robin Taylor (he/him)'s avatar

It's always so odd to me that our marginalized queer community excludes our own (marginalizing the marginalized?), but I see it over and over. And I want to reimagine the queer movement in the ways you've lined out.

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Demodocus's avatar

Between my particular type of demi & my luck in first (only) boyfriends, I feel like an outsider even in ace spaces. How dare I claim a place at the queer table when my life is so very close to hetero-normative?

I do tell people I'm aspec, because if you all are open, surely I have no excuse not to be, not to mention my filter's been rather cracked since my depression got amplified by pregnancy several years back.

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Demodocus's avatar

Honestly, I feel like an outsider in a lot of places besides.

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Sarah's avatar

I’ve often joked that I’m “the queerest kind of queer” because I don’t fit in in allo OR queer spaces. Being sex-positive and aego, I sometimes don’t feel I even belong in ace spaces (although I’m sex-averse… so, yes. Yes I do!)

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Dr Lucy Morley Williams's avatar

The wonderful bell hooks said - I am paraphrasing - that queer can mean sexuality or anyone who bumps up against and questions the conventional. How anyone can tell another how to experience themselves - it seems very autocratic - and unqueer!

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Cody Daigle-Orians's avatar

I couldn't agree with you more! hooks' sentiment is echoed by theorist Cathy Cohen, too, in "Punks, Bulldaggers and Welfare Queens." That broad understanding of queerness is one I love very much.

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