It's always so odd to me that our marginalized queer community excludes our own (marginalizing the marginalized?), but I see it over and over. And I want to reimagine the queer movement in the ways you've lined out.
Between my particular type of demi & my luck in first (only) boyfriends, I feel like an outsider even in ace spaces. How dare I claim a place at the queer table when my life is so very close to hetero-normative?
I do tell people I'm aspec, because if you all are open, surely I have no excuse not to be, not to mention my filter's been rather cracked since my depression got amplified by pregnancy several years back.
I’ve often joked that I’m “the queerest kind of queer” because I don’t fit in in allo OR queer spaces. Being sex-positive and aego, I sometimes don’t feel I even belong in ace spaces (although I’m sex-averse… so, yes. Yes I do!)
The wonderful bell hooks said - I am paraphrasing - that queer can mean sexuality or anyone who bumps up against and questions the conventional. How anyone can tell another how to experience themselves - it seems very autocratic - and unqueer!
I couldn't agree with you more! hooks' sentiment is echoed by theorist Cathy Cohen, too, in "Punks, Bulldaggers and Welfare Queens." That broad understanding of queerness is one I love very much.
It's always so odd to me that our marginalized queer community excludes our own (marginalizing the marginalized?), but I see it over and over. And I want to reimagine the queer movement in the ways you've lined out.
Between my particular type of demi & my luck in first (only) boyfriends, I feel like an outsider even in ace spaces. How dare I claim a place at the queer table when my life is so very close to hetero-normative?
I do tell people I'm aspec, because if you all are open, surely I have no excuse not to be, not to mention my filter's been rather cracked since my depression got amplified by pregnancy several years back.
Honestly, I feel like an outsider in a lot of places besides.
I’ve often joked that I’m “the queerest kind of queer” because I don’t fit in in allo OR queer spaces. Being sex-positive and aego, I sometimes don’t feel I even belong in ace spaces (although I’m sex-averse… so, yes. Yes I do!)
The wonderful bell hooks said - I am paraphrasing - that queer can mean sexuality or anyone who bumps up against and questions the conventional. How anyone can tell another how to experience themselves - it seems very autocratic - and unqueer!
I couldn't agree with you more! hooks' sentiment is echoed by theorist Cathy Cohen, too, in "Punks, Bulldaggers and Welfare Queens." That broad understanding of queerness is one I love very much.