Archive - Ace Dad Advice

Asexuality is front and center in "Purpose"

Branden Jacobs-Jenkins's Pulitzer Prize winner is the ace representation we need.

Jul 25 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

I'm aroace, and my friend group has "couples only" outings. I feel weird about them, but am I missing something?

We can address amatonormativity in our friend group without rocking the boat too hard.

Jul 22 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

"I'm aroace, and my friends think I'm 'too intense.' What should I do?"

We can (and should) advocate for our wants and needs in friendships just as much as we do in romantic relationships.

Jul 14 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

"Finding a relationship as an aspec person feels hopeless. Help!"

Hope is something we build for ourselves.

Jul 7 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

I'm 49. There's More Life Behind Me Than in Front of Me.

How I'm facing the anxieties and fears of midlife... and living big anyway.

Jul 2 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

June 2025

"When should I have my identity figured out, and do I need to give it a label?"

We're not projects that can be completed. We're always a work in progress

Jun 30 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

"My allo partner thinks something is wrong because I'm not into sex right now."

Shifts in the way we express our ace identities can be confusing for allo partners. Here's how to talk about it.

Jun 23 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

"I'm afraid to accept that I'm aroace, because it means I'll be alone forever."

When it comes to relationships, we don't have to fit ourselves into futures that don't imagine us.

Jun 16 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

How do I treat my partner's ace-spectrum identity with respect?

Even in the early stages of a relationship, a few key strategies can help your ace-allo relationship thrive.

Jun 9 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

"I'm angry with my body for not wanting sex."

We have to treat our relationship with our body just like any other relationship in our lives. The same rules apply.

Jun 2 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

May 2025

"I don't mind being ace, but I want to be normal."

Fighting the idea of allosexuality as "normal" is essential in fully celebrating being ace.

May 19 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

Why should aspecs be included in polyamory discourse?

Aspec experience has something important to say about polyamory.

May 16 •

Cody Daigle-Orians

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